#NoMercyForLanre: Mercy Aigbe ‘A Case Study of Domestic Violence’

Domestic violence is a nightmare which is seeped into reality and becomes a controversial topic when brought to the spotlight especially when a celebrity is involved.
When you bring up the name Mercy Aigbe and domestic violence you get a flood of information, stories and report. The story started on the popular social media platform Instagram, where Mercy Aigbe posted a picture on the 28th of April 2017 with the caption “say  no to domestic violence…” It sparked questions and suspicion which the actress tried to shut down by later sharing a picture of her and husband Lanre Gentry which she took down moments later following harsh comments by fans and followers on her IG page. She was later spotted after the event covered in makeup with little trace of the incident.
The rocky marriage of mercy Aigbe became a trending topic last week escalating to three people arrested for harassment and a restraining order was secured against her husband.
According to reports, on the  5th of May MercyAigbe showed up at the Area F police station in response to invitation by police only to meet the absence of her husband Lanre Gentry who however came out to media to deny battering his wife, also claiming that the actress/business woman has been going through mental disorder pilled with accusations of infidelity.
Mercy Aigbe also took to the media changing her handle from @mercyaigbegentry to @realmercyaigbe with an exposing e-letter, pictures evidence of the incident and followup scanning procedure done to prove the extent of the abuse, a harsh reality check to the shy topic of domestic violence which can happen to anyone even in the most seemingly stable relationship.
    Lanre Gentry has embarked on a journey of cat and mouse…Running away from the law and there has been an accusation and Lanre conniving with the police an accusation made by Mercy aigbe herself.
We the Hoped this will not be another case of DOMESTIC VIOLENCE been swept under the rug… which has become the norm in our society..
This is a lesson to everyone that the seemingly most perfect couple might not be so perfect after all.
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#Notosexualassaults.
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Husband beats and stabs his wife in her private part after accusing her of cheating

A man named Victor Ojiaku has been arrested by the Nigerian police for allegedly beating his wife mercilessly and then stabbing her in her private part with a broken bottle after accusing her of sleeping with sleeping with a teenage boy who works for him.

Ojiaku, an automobile parts dealer, attacked his wife, Faith Ojiaku, 27, a mother of three at their home in White Sand, Isheri-Osun in Lagos State last week. LIB has photos of the stabbed vagina but probably not appropriate to post here

A man named Victor Ojiaku has been arrested by the Nigerian police for allegedly beating his wife mercilessly and then stabbing her in her private part with a broken bottle after accusing her of sleeping with sleeping with a teenage boy who works for him.

Ojiaku, an automobile parts dealer, attacked his wife, Faith Ojiaku, 27, a mother of three at their home in White Sand, Isheri-Osun in Lagos State last week. LIB has photos of the stabbed vagina but probably not appropriate to post here.
Faith was kept locked up for two days by Victor, making it impossible for her to call any family member or friend for help or seeking medical attention.

When she was eventually allowed to seek medical attention, she used a doctor’s phone to call her sister who the Lagos State Domestic and Sexual Violence Response Team, who have since taken up the case.

The man appeared at the Ejigbo Magistrates’ Court last week where he was granted bail and case postponed till end of January. He is also faing charges for attacking his teenage worker who he accused of sleeping with his wife.

He is facing a six-count charge bordering on grievous bodily harm, threat to life and assault.
Faith was kept locked up for two days by Victor, making it impossible for her to call any family member or friend for help or seeking medical attention.

When she was eventually allowed to seek medical attention, she used a doctor’s phone to call her sister who the Lagos State Domestic and Sexual Violence Response Team, who have since taken up the case.

The man appeared at the Ejigbo Magistrates’ Court last week where he was granted bail and case postponed till end of January. He is also faing charges for attacking his teenage worker who he accused of sleeping with his wife.

He is facing a six-count charge bordering on grievous bodily harm, threat to life and assault.

What real mean want in a woman

By Damilola CEAF Staff

There are certain things about a woman that will always make any man want to go after her and make him come to a decision to get to know her on a deeper level. Dressing well and applying make ups does make you a great woman or doesn’t make a man want to make you is wife but there are different things men want from women which you need to know.

So what does a mature, REAL man want in a woman?

#1) A Real Man Wants A Woman Who Is Playful
Men really like to be playful, they play a lot and want to connect that with their woman and also people around them but most women makes mistakes of trying to be free sometime, have fun but they will actually get serious all the time and want to talk and talk to the man thinking they will get the heart of the man with this way.  Sometimes your words is not actually the main thing that get a man attracted to you, it’s what you create with him.

You can watch or play sports together, be competitive in casual games you’ll really ramp up the attraction and interest.

#2) A Real Man Wants A Woman Who Is Independent

Women definitely make the mistake of believing that men are looking for someone who they can exercise power on, give other to and then they will follow, but they gotten it all wrong at this point because men really want someone will motivate them, impact new ideas into them and also give advice.

Men want a woman who inspires them because she has great things going on her own life. They want a woman who has her own idea other than being in a relationship.

What matters to a man is that a woman still has space in her life for a great relationship and is grounded and present when she’s with him.

When women stays busy in their own life and not suddenly make man is priority.  Don’t neglect your own personal activity, interests, responsibilities and friends just to be with him always.  And also when you are with him let him feel your presence have fun and give your attention to him and what you’re doing together.

#3) A Real Man Wants A Woman Who Is Emotionally Mature

A woman should learn how to handle are feelings to a man in a calm way and make him understand she is mature, a man should be able to understand you feelings in other to connect to you world.  How a woman controls her emotions is really important and these are things men look for when deciding whether or not to get serious with a woman.  If she lets her emotions get out of hand it is dangerous.

On the other hand, if her feelings are presented in a calm manner, she will win his respect and make him feel like a better partner to him.  He’ll see that she can handle things very well rather waiting to be treated like a queen.

#4) A Real Man Wants A Woman He’s Intensely Attracted To
You are not to force a man to like you that fast in a relationship but instead you should keep calm and let thing work naturally,  There’s nothing more interesting in relationship to a man than to have a great woman who knows how to relax and have fun.

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SIGNS THAT YOU ARE IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS

By Damilola  CEAF Staff,

When seeing a write up or hear a program tagged “abusive relationship” it is not about men who beat up their wife, hitting each other or getting bruises covered, because not all abusive relationship comes in violence and most abusers look innocent in the outside world.
Been a successful woman does not mean you cannot be in an abusive relationship, but the best way is to identify the signs and solve the problem. Abusive relationship can take any form as anyone can be in this kind of relationship without realizing.
An abuser in a relationship tends to manipulate you in any way, talk to you anyhow and tend to start apologizing when he thinks he is wrong and come up with the words that “I will make it up to you”.
Here are some signs that shows you are in an abusive relationship
He is always controlling: He always talk to you anyhow, want to be in charge of your life, he will wants to know where exactly you are going and where you are coming from. When you make calls and smile he will interrogate you and want to know who you are talking to.
He is always jealous: You should know you are in trouble with this kind of man, when there is some much jealously in his heart you will actually face so much difficulty with him. This kind of man visit unexpectedly, calls frequently to know where you are and know what you are doing.
There is verbal abuse or Insult: He will always say this that are bad to you, talk to you a bad manner, remind you of your bad past and hurt you by calling you ugly names.
There are treats of violence: He makes aggressive statement that makes you scare, he says statements like “I will beat you, I will break your arm etc” he later comes up with a cute face and says he did not mean it.
He blames other for his own mistake: He comes up with several excuses when he makes mistake, he either says he got provoked by his boss or co- worker at work or blame it on extended family, and he will never be claim responsibility for his own mistake.
Accuse you of having affair: He accuses you of having extramarital affair just because he sees you with someone who may be a co worker or s long time friend and accuses you of cheating on him.
Check your emails, texts and social media account: He checks your private account just to know if you are trying to hide something from him. He checks your text messages to see who you have been talking to or what you have been talking about.

And lastly Listen to your Gut Feelings.They are always right.

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CLUES AND SIGNS YOU ARE DATING A PSYCHOPATH

By Damilola  CEAF Staff

For many of us, it can be difficult to identify if our partners are psychopath, it is not something you will detect very fast in a relationship neither will you find it in the eyes of a man when you meet him. Nevertheless, not all psychopaths are serial killer or criminal who has been to prison so many time  .

Psychopaths are uncaring people with shallow mind/emotion who manipulate people with words, they learn to mimic emotions, and despite their inability to feel them will appear to unsuspected people.
A psychopath may appear or act like a prince charming at first, without knowing the signs you can end up dating a psychopath. You may end up not knowing who he really his when the bad attitude is been revealed.
Here are some signs to identify a psychopath
Flattery: When you meet a psychopath they try to move things really fast, they tell you sweet things like they love you, and want that you share the same interest together. They constantly begin communication and tend to be fascinated with you. They bombard your social media with comment, love quotes etc. This is called the love bombing.
They play with your emotion with pity stories: At first they tell you series of stories about their abusive ex, they seems cute with these stories makes you understand that they do not want drama in their life and they crave for is quiet and some peaceful time. They make you believe these stories and make you have a soft spot in your heart for them.
They withhold attention: They hold the attention which they created and make you a completely bored person. They make you feel like you are getting on their nerves. They treat you with silence and then you begin to feel like a responsibility to them.
Lying for no reason: They come up with lie and make you believe that they are telling the truth. A psychopath can come up with lies with facts and can go to any length to defend the lies.
They treat other people (animals) like garbage: They hurt people with words and even by hitting them, they don’t care what happen to living being like them. He does what he wants regardless of what happens to other.