What real mean want in a woman

By Damilola CEAF Staff

There are certain things about a woman that will always make any man want to go after her and make him come to a decision to get to know her on a deeper level. Dressing well and applying make ups does make you a great woman or doesn’t make a man want to make you is wife but there are different things men want from women which you need to know.

So what does a mature, REAL man want in a woman?

#1) A Real Man Wants A Woman Who Is Playful
Men really like to be playful, they play a lot and want to connect that with their woman and also people around them but most women makes mistakes of trying to be free sometime, have fun but they will actually get serious all the time and want to talk and talk to the man thinking they will get the heart of the man with this way.  Sometimes your words is not actually the main thing that get a man attracted to you, it’s what you create with him.

You can watch or play sports together, be competitive in casual games you’ll really ramp up the attraction and interest.

#2) A Real Man Wants A Woman Who Is Independent

Women definitely make the mistake of believing that men are looking for someone who they can exercise power on, give other to and then they will follow, but they gotten it all wrong at this point because men really want someone will motivate them, impact new ideas into them and also give advice.

Men want a woman who inspires them because she has great things going on her own life. They want a woman who has her own idea other than being in a relationship.

What matters to a man is that a woman still has space in her life for a great relationship and is grounded and present when she’s with him.

When women stays busy in their own life and not suddenly make man is priority.  Don’t neglect your own personal activity, interests, responsibilities and friends just to be with him always.  And also when you are with him let him feel your presence have fun and give your attention to him and what you’re doing together.

#3) A Real Man Wants A Woman Who Is Emotionally Mature

A woman should learn how to handle are feelings to a man in a calm way and make him understand she is mature, a man should be able to understand you feelings in other to connect to you world.  How a woman controls her emotions is really important and these are things men look for when deciding whether or not to get serious with a woman.  If she lets her emotions get out of hand it is dangerous.

On the other hand, if her feelings are presented in a calm manner, she will win his respect and make him feel like a better partner to him.  He’ll see that she can handle things very well rather waiting to be treated like a queen.

#4) A Real Man Wants A Woman He’s Intensely Attracted To
You are not to force a man to like you that fast in a relationship but instead you should keep calm and let thing work naturally,  There’s nothing more interesting in relationship to a man than to have a great woman who knows how to relax and have fun.






By Damilola  CEAF Staff,

When seeing a write up or hear a program tagged “abusive relationship” it is not about men who beat up their wife, hitting each other or getting bruises covered, because not all abusive relationship comes in violence and most abusers look innocent in the outside world.
Been a successful woman does not mean you cannot be in an abusive relationship, but the best way is to identify the signs and solve the problem. Abusive relationship can take any form as anyone can be in this kind of relationship without realizing.
An abuser in a relationship tends to manipulate you in any way, talk to you anyhow and tend to start apologizing when he thinks he is wrong and come up with the words that “I will make it up to you”.
Here are some signs that shows you are in an abusive relationship
He is always controlling: He always talk to you anyhow, want to be in charge of your life, he will wants to know where exactly you are going and where you are coming from. When you make calls and smile he will interrogate you and want to know who you are talking to.
He is always jealous: You should know you are in trouble with this kind of man, when there is some much jealously in his heart you will actually face so much difficulty with him. This kind of man visit unexpectedly, calls frequently to know where you are and know what you are doing.
There is verbal abuse or Insult: He will always say this that are bad to you, talk to you a bad manner, remind you of your bad past and hurt you by calling you ugly names.
There are treats of violence: He makes aggressive statement that makes you scare, he says statements like “I will beat you, I will break your arm etc” he later comes up with a cute face and says he did not mean it.
He blames other for his own mistake: He comes up with several excuses when he makes mistake, he either says he got provoked by his boss or co- worker at work or blame it on extended family, and he will never be claim responsibility for his own mistake.
Accuse you of having affair: He accuses you of having extramarital affair just because he sees you with someone who may be a co worker or s long time friend and accuses you of cheating on him.
Check your emails, texts and social media account: He checks your private account just to know if you are trying to hide something from him. He checks your text messages to see who you have been talking to or what you have been talking about.

And lastly Listen to your Gut Feelings.They are always right.

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By Damilola  CEAF Staff

For many of us, it can be difficult to identify if our partners are psychopath, it is not something you will detect very fast in a relationship neither will you find it in the eyes of a man when you meet him. Nevertheless, not all psychopaths are serial killer or criminal who has been to prison so many time  .

Psychopaths are uncaring people with shallow mind/emotion who manipulate people with words, they learn to mimic emotions, and despite their inability to feel them will appear to unsuspected people.
A psychopath may appear or act like a prince charming at first, without knowing the signs you can end up dating a psychopath. You may end up not knowing who he really his when the bad attitude is been revealed.
Here are some signs to identify a psychopath
Flattery: When you meet a psychopath they try to move things really fast, they tell you sweet things like they love you, and want that you share the same interest together. They constantly begin communication and tend to be fascinated with you. They bombard your social media with comment, love quotes etc. This is called the love bombing.
They play with your emotion with pity stories: At first they tell you series of stories about their abusive ex, they seems cute with these stories makes you understand that they do not want drama in their life and they crave for is quiet and some peaceful time. They make you believe these stories and make you have a soft spot in your heart for them.
They withhold attention: They hold the attention which they created and make you a completely bored person. They make you feel like you are getting on their nerves. They treat you with silence and then you begin to feel like a responsibility to them.
Lying for no reason: They come up with lie and make you believe that they are telling the truth. A psychopath can come up with lies with facts and can go to any length to defend the lies.
They treat other people (animals) like garbage: They hurt people with words and even by hitting them, they don’t care what happen to living being like them. He does what he wants regardless of what happens to other.



5 Reasons to Choose Love over Fear

All other emotions stem from those two basic emotions. Love is unconditional acceptance and the willingness to go beyond oneself for our own benefit (self-love) or the benefit of another. Fear is the absence of love, just as judgment is the withholding of love.


Couples, families, peers in the workplace, community members in neighborhoods … they all express both the dynamic of fear and love in their relationships with one another.

Love comes in two forms, either conditional or unconditional. Either it’s offered and received freely and openly, or it’s possessive and demanding. Unconditional love is one of the most powerful and healing gifts we give to others (and it fosters inner peace and happiness, as well).

To choose love is to choose from your heart, not just your brain and ego. The heart is one of the most powerful muscles in the body; its electromagnetic field is sixty times more powerful than that of the brain.

There is a concept called “heart coherence”, which means being heart focused and centered, being in the thoughts and emotions of acceptance, appreciation, and compassion toward ourselves and others — the body and mind are in alignment and cooperation.

Research by the Institute of HeartMath shows that when an individual is in “heart coherence” toward themselves and others, their brain wave patterns and biorhythm are affected in positive ways. And other people near the subjects were also positively affected by the person’s “heart coherence.”

In other words … choosing love boosts your physical health and your mental well-being. Here are five specific ways how:

1. Unconditional love helps create a more peaceful world.

Numerous studies show the healing and peaceful power of love. In August 2013, during the height of Syrian conflict over chemical weapons and possible US military involvement, James Twyman, a peace troubadour, went to Syria and Egypt to perform a concert and pray for love and peace. During his time in Syria, he had over 100,000 people from all over the world sending love and prayers for peace. Less than two months after this event, the United Nations averted US military involvement on the issue by signing the Syrian disarmament plan.

James again went into Syria on February 1, 2016 near Isis territory to perform another peace concert, and again invited people from around the globe to send love and pray for peace, through the energetic highway. Several million people from around the world, myself included, participated in a synchronized prayer and meditation with James for peace in that region. We’ll see if another miracle “in the name of love” occurs.

2. Love helps boost your spirit.

Choosing unconditional love, acceptance, gratitude, and compassion generates a higher energy within us.

When someone is being judgmental, conditional, and demanding with you, it doesn’t feel good. The person’s energy is draining and toxic, like they’re a vampire sucking the positive energy right out of you.

But when you surrounded yourself with people who are unconditional, accepting, compassionate and positive toward you, your spirit lifts and you usually feel warm and fuzzy inside. You want people like that (and their upbeat energy) around you.

Unconditional love promotes trust and connection with others. It allows more openness and vulnerability in life experiences, so you don’t need to hide from yourself or others.

In the words of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., “I have decided to stick with love … Hate is too great a burden to bear.”

3. Love is our natural instinct.

To love and be loved is a basic human desire. Hearing someone say “I love you,”  is powerful to the human heart and brain. It puts us in a blissful state. Telling family members and friends that you love them can change your mood and behavior quickly.

The process of falling in love releases the chemical dopamine in the brain to create feelings of pleasure, ecstasy, jealousy or obsession. The brain wiring and chemicals involved with love are also intended to create the healthy bonding attachment needed for both for mating and raising children.

4. Love challenges you to grow into your best self.

Love will push every button, test your values, try every ounce of your patience, challenge every strength, and trigger every wound and weakness. Above all, love is an invitation to freedom and inner peace by freeing your mind from unhealthy attachments and misperceptions.

Choosing love, especially in intimate relationships, offers a pathway to develop a high level of understanding. It elicits the willingness to accept each other as you are and to have compassion towards yourself and others. It helps you find the strength to forgive or reconcile mistakes and differences.

5. Love is the only choice that leads to real happiness.

Love is what makes up the universe, it’s what ties all things together, making two parts into one. Love includes, while fear excludes. Unconditional love is the ultimate healer and restorer. To choose love is to say “Yes” to ourselves and to life.

Love is living with an open heart and an expanded mind, which seeks to become the best version of itself, being of service to others, and treat others and our planet with respect and reverence.

Love of self and toward others is what makes the world a more peaceful place. Yes, let’s just be love and choose love, because love is truly all there is.